Body Talk

Stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me! Ironic, broken bones can heal and often the scars that run deepest are those inflicted by the spoken word!

I have noticed more and more I and the worst culprit when it comes to negative body talk; “I feel fat today”, “I hate my legs” or I find myself desperately looking to friends for self-assurance “Does this make me look fat?”, “Is this outfit OK?” and it goes on…

From time to time I have moments of nirvana where I feel fabulous and on top of the world, yet rarely find myself, or hear others making self-acclamations like “I feel fabulous today” or “Boy, my butt looks great in these jeans”.

Admitting that I am vulnerable and more than often feel dreadfully self-conscious when it comes to my appearance is a hard thing. I look to my mother, who in my eyes is amazingly beautiful, fit and fabulous. Yet it amazes me that she does not see this. Somehow the reflection does not mirror the emotions and perceived image in our minds. Continuing with negative body talk only reinforces a destructive mindset. 

I had a date recently; I rushed home after work, jumped into the shower and started getting ready… With an entire new wardrobe of clothes to choose from the selection should have been easy. Yet, somehow, I found that nothing fit, nothing looked right, nothing felt right… All the way along my body talk was terrible, leading to me feeling worse. After a near breakdown I decided on an outfit and left the house feeling dreadfully self-conscious, only to be greeted by my gentleman friend who told me how beautiful I looked! In that instant, my paranoia suddenly disappeared and I felt comfortable and confident once more.  

My goal is to make positive statement. I have come to realise that I am not perfect, I never will be. I am happy with who I am, and need to be proud of how I look! This needs to be reflected in my words and acclamations… so here goes, a new attitude!!!